A topic not many mum’s know about and if they do then they know this is not the nicest thing us mum’s experience after having children, often I have found myself feeling like I’m failing as a parent and crying when both my kids are hungry and desperate for food or they are ill and i’ve tried all I can to make them feel better only to have them cry and cry and all I can offer is a cuddle or a hug or when teething happens.
Some people dont recognise the signs and can be mistaken quite often as just tiredness/sleep deprivation or overall emotions after birth but this condition can leave you feeling like you dont want to be a parent sometimes and find that you want to lock yourself away but I find that a smile or a simple I love you sometimes is all it takes to make those feelings melt away.
Signs to recognise or you find yourself feeling :
- Low self-esteem and lack of confidence.
- Feelings of inadequacy and guilt.
- Negative thoughts.
- Feeling that life is meaningless.
- Feeling unable to cope.
- Tearfulness and irritability.
- Difficulty sleeping or changes in sleeping patterns.
Do consult your GP if you feel if you need the help I was lucky enough and still am to have a support system of family and friends to help me cope, never be afraid to speak up or tell someone that your not coping or you need a break, theyre are woman who have been in the same position you are and can help or husband’s or partner’s be the shoulder they need or just offer to take the baby sometimes or help wherever you can with bath-times or just even changing bottoms , making dinner or going to the park for a bit to let mum let off some steam.
Know this you are doing a great job your children are happy and healthy and that is all that matters, they need you to show support , happiness and laughter and overall LOVE for that is what makes the world spin.
Again please feel free to leave me a comment or share your experiences im not a nurse or trained professional im just a woman , mum ,wife , daughter , just like all of you not a day goes by where im not covered in food,sick or worse lol so i cant thank enough the people who take the time to read these or my family that provide the inspiration or the comedy aspect of these blogs and i hope you continue to enjoy or find informative or funny.